How territorial are you about your parenting? As someone who can’t have kids, I find myself in no opportunities to see how I would be, but plenty of opportunities to have parenting ‘shared’ with me. I find that it’s a subject of much offense on one side or the other, but people are so different in how they do it that it’s impossible to tell until you’ve offended. For instance, on one end of the spectrum, you have the people who actually rely somewhat on others and they get peeved if other people don’t stop their kids from misbehaving when the opportunity arises. On the other end, you have the people who yell at you for simply repeating what the parent said. I don’t know which I would agree with more. I mean, I don’t like the idea of people disciplining my kids willy-nilly, especially for things I don’t agree with. On the other hand, kids are HARD to raise and I’m not super territorial, so I think I would appreciate a little reinforcement of my discipline every now and then. At any rate, I don’t know what’s best. What’s your style?
I had someone who used to come to my house that would jump up and discipline my kids for EVERYTHING! I never even had a chance to talk to them myself. the most annoying thing was that they sometimes did things I did not think they needed discipline for and she handled it weird (she does not have kids, or even much experience with them) normally I feel fine about others working with my kids if they get to it first and I tend to do the same with other peoples kids. however I find unsolicited advice of any kind regarding parenting is likely to cause anger (and I really don't like it either). discipline (when it is actually needed) yes, un-asked for advice NO!