Foster care

We finished our Foster Parent training tonight and I’m really excited now to be a foster parent. It looks hard and scary but oh so rewarding. There’s such a great need for good foster parents out there! Go and investigate fostering in your area and see if you can lend a hand! Ees gud!

22 thoughts on “Foster care”

  1. Oh how exciting.

    Too bad you don’t realize that these are often stolen children you will be warehousing for a corrupt government agency.

    Child Protective will tell you only that which will make you useful to them.

  2. What a shame that you have had such a bad experience with foster care. I’ve seen a lot of kids in my time, and of the ones in foster care I’ve never seen kids that didn’t need to be protected from their parent(s). It’s an imperfect system to be sure, but it’s definitely a lot of people trying their hardest to do what’s best for the children. There’s not a lot of power or money involved. The only ‘corruption’ that might be involved is with the state legislature not giving the funds and resources necessary to do a better job.

  3. Child Protection Services is out of control and are taking peoples children with false and misleading information provided to the courts. Perjury and falsified affidavits are robbing children from their parents and is running rampant. RECORD ALL conversations with child protection agents thus robbing them of their ability to take your children with lies. DO NOT allow it to be their word against yours.

    And to these delusional foster parents, stop believing and supporting a corporation run amok. Children are suffering due to your ill informed indoctrination during foster parent training.

  4. How much money will you be making – per head? Did they tell you about the cruises you could write off – by taking a one hour class per day while at sea for two weeks – on the taxpayer dime?
    Foster Care is a racket that pays big money. I hear people bragging all the time – “got another child in the house” and so now they get even mo money!

  5. The amount of power and money involved in child welfare is massive, involving multiple funding streams of Social Security and Medicaid, yet pails to the levels of waste and abuse of taxpayer dollars. Poverty is codified as the crime of abuse and neglect for eligibility of a child entering foster care is strictly based on being impoverished. Hence, as poverty increases so shall the number of child removals to foster care.

    The bad experience we, as a nation have had with foster care are the bilions of dollars of federal fraud found through only cursory audits conducted by the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services Office of Inspector General and U.S. Department of Justice, Additionally, OIG has identified a number of State
    financing arrangements and other revenue-maximization tactics that
    inappropriately increase Federal Medicaid payments to States
    . Children are being double-billed, provided for unnecessary medical services and phantom programs are funded that bill fictitious children and services. This is called fraud.

    Every year, lawyers across the nation are settling an increased number of lawsuits against states, child placing agencies and foster parents to the tune of tens of billions of taxpayer dollars, all because individuals such as yourself have not had the opportunity to be exposed to the child welfare industry for what it is: a market.

    Foster care, in its current state is an imperfect system, as it affords no constitutional protections to the parents grieving the loss of their children, for no reason except the crime of poverty.

    It becomes economically beneficial to provide resources to families than to spend $1000 a day placing one child in foster care. The funding is not limited to the little check you will receive to subsidize your income; the funding source covers building operating expenses, staffing, insurance, vehicles, education, court operations, information technology, the list goes on.

    This is what happens when CPS knocks at your door At that particular moment, the moment when child protective services knocks on your door, life in its current state, ceases to exist. The knock of the child protective service worker is not just the sounding request for entry into your home, but it is the announcement that everything you were taught about freedom and liberty in school has all been a delusion.

    You have been accused of abuse and neglect of your children by an anonymous source, who you will never be allowed to challenge, not even in a court of law. By and through a court hearing you were not requested to attend, you have been found guilty of abuse and neglect of your children through a court order to remove your children, and placed on the Central Registry of Abuse and Neglect without being told. As your children scream in fear of the armed police officers and child protective service workers who rip them from your arms, you realized that your children have been legally kidnapped.

    Your children are spirited away to a place unknown, only to be medicated for crying for the loss of their family. You are mandated to attend therapy, complete random drug tests and parenting classes over the next 12 months, as you have been charged with abuse and neglect. As these services are only provided during the hours of 9 to 5, you are unable to maintain traditional employment, now setting the stage for termination of parental rights. You file a grievance about the process only to find out that this action is considered non-compliance, further preventing your children coming home. Your judge has silenced you from saying a word or asking what exactly is the charge, for there is no reason to enter a plea. Finally, your parental rights are terminated because your children have been in care for 12 months. You have no chance in court because your court appointed attorney only reviews your case 5 minutes before walking into court, never preserving the arguments to appeal.

    Now, my dear, as you take our children into your home, I want you to understand…It could happen to you.

    Blanche Flour

  6. Hey Dy!

    You rock. Just keep doing what you believe is best for you and your family and forget about the rest.

    We both know the foster system isn’t perfect, but I also know a girl whose father was abusing her. The foster system was a much better choice.

    It’s crazy how people with such negative experiences are posting on your blog. BTW, I had a foster brother 3-4 years older than me. It was a different circumstance He was my a friend to my brothers and a teenager when he came to live with us. No abuse to him or us, just an extra big brother.

    Best of luck!

  7. Good luck with everything. I saw your post on Nauvoo. I’m currently Foster Parenting. It’s a tough job… but where would the kids go if we didn’t take the opportunity to care for them??? Don’t let anyone get you down on it.

  8. You know, if some of these commenters were in, say, Sri Lanka or India or another third world country, I might believe the delusions a bit more. You want corruption, come to this part of the world. But in the US or Canada? To the extent some of these people are claiming? Nope. I ain’t buying what they are selling.

    People who leave comments like that never use their real names. Anonymity is better when you’re acting the bully or jerk.

    Dyany, good foster parents are desperately needed in this world. šŸ™‚

  9. I think you should look into the cruise thing, Dyany. No one deserves it more than you. Also, I am glad to know that you will be coming into fistfuls of money momentarily. Although, there is just the teensy weensiest chance that the cruise and huge paychecks are figments or a bitter imagination.

    It is unfortunate that haters kind find the energy to put into harassing you. It would seem like focusing on their fixing their own families may have been a better use of time. But then, kids don’t end up with good people like you because their parents are so rational and functional.


  10. Dyany,

    Congratulations on your decision. I’ve seen the good that foster parenting can do for children, or could have done had someone taken them out of their living Hell and placed them with a good family.

    Stay strong.


  11. Dyany, I hope all goes well and you are able to bless the lives of some kids who really need your help.

    I have some neighbors who fostered a couple of boys. Their father had died, and their mother was terminal and unable to care for them. The extended family was unable to care for them either (due to advanced age).

    When the mother passed away, the boys were adopted by my neighbors. These boys were in my scout troop, and just are a wonderful blessing to the neighborhood.

    My neighbors keep them in contact with their aged grandfather and 20-something brother (their last biological relatives).

    It is really a “happy” ending, at least as happy as one can be, given that they were orphans.


  12. Dynanny- I look foreard to hearing how this turns out. The kids you foster will be lucky to have your loving care in their lives.

    Esp re the poster who complained about CPS removing kids from a home. They are trained professionals who investigate claims. If a child is removed, I am sure it is for just and valid reasons. (I know you know that!)

    You will be a Godsend to those children in those traumatic situations who need comfort and stabilization in their lives.

    It is sad that our society has so many unable to care for their children. I know some kids require permanent removal from a home. But for those where the goal is to return the child to a family, ie once the family can get themselves stablilized, how wonderful that people like you and your husband are willing to help care for, love, support and watch over and nurture the children involved.

  13. There is good and bad in foster care. For the most part, it is better for the kids to be removed from an environment where they are in immediate danger of being abused, whether sexually or physically.

    When I was younger, my family had two foster boys. Their mom’s boyfriend physically abused them – hit them in the face with a belt, if I remember correctly. They were with us for several months. They were in desperate need of “normal” family life.

    Foster parenting is incredibly challenging, but can be incredibly rewarding – in the sense of knowing you are making an improvement in the life of a child. Good luck Dyany.

  14. I also caught your post over at Nauvoo. I don’t know what planet some of these people are on but they are way out of line.

    As a current foster parent we are not paid big bucks – not really enough to cover true expenses per child. I have yet to run into a child through this process who didn’t need to be protected – most from parents who are on drugs.

    If I were to guess, you have some disgruntled parents posting who are upset they got their kids taken away. I’m not saying mistakes do not happen and corruption does not exist but not as often and to the level being claimed.

  15. I think fostering is a great thing, and I agree with Titus Todd that if a kid is taken away from biological parents, chances are there’s a very good reason for it. That said, Dyany, you have some serious long-term problems with depression and anxiety. Perhaps these issues should be thoroughly addressed before you take on troubled children.

  16. Just a quick note from a foster parent (for over six years now). I’ve been thanked by the mom of every child I’ve fostered. There’s a real need out there. Drugs, alchoholism other addictions are are taking these children’s parents away, not corruption. I feel overwhelmed by the number of kids I can’t help and I pray that more good people will get involved.

  17. Legally Kidnapped knows that ~70% of all foster kids go home because they weren’t really abused just slightly neglected. And you will probably neglect them at least as much as their parents if not more. You have no incentive to show on time for the once a week hour for each child that the parents are probably allowed. If you were foster-adopt you have some incentive to keep on the agency’s good side because if the kids don’t go back they may stay with you permanently – this of course doesn’t mean the agency won’t do cruel thing to the kid’s parents, but they’re likely to do that anyway. Kids need permanent placements and people who will take over if their parent can’t. The agency SWs sure aren’t going to do that.


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